Decisions often get whittled down to two choices and at that point some folks need help. For example, I've heard many times in a restaurant something like "I can't decide between the chicken and the fish" and watched the mental gyrations continue for many minutes, usually ending with the person asking the waiter to decide. This is what I call a "good-good" decision. Regardless of which option you choose, the outcome is good. So why go through the anguish? Just pick one and put the menu down. An example from many years ago was someone's choice between attending Ohio University or Miami University (Oxford). Before getting involved to "help", I realized this was a "good-good" decision, and getting involved to help select "the right one" was pointless. We let the young lad make his own decision and, of course, it worked out. How couldn't it?
The really difficult decision is the "bad-bad" where both options are bad. You have to select one eventually, but each time you get close to deciding, you see that downside and it throws you right back to indecisiveness. The best example of this is deciding between getting a divorce or trying to fix a miserable marriage, particularly when there are young children involved. Take your time, but realize that after a while, you will have to decide a path and live with the consequences.
The third type of decision is the "good-bad". If you have a problem with this one, seek therapy.
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